tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9025568998589461867.post4826326177729082224..comments2022-11-09T01:31:23.705-08:00Comments on Between the Lines: Today Is Really All We HaveAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05086956908414638474noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9025568998589461867.post-72528813567046542442009-12-25T13:21:06.971-08:002009-12-25T13:21:06.971-08:00Isn't it amazing how our perspective changes a...Isn't it amazing how our perspective changes after a sudden loss (or in your case, two sudden losses). I used to regret so much about how I was "before" but I'm thinking now that was how life had to work for me to learn what I needed to learn; I'm so stubborn I'm not sure I could have gotten it any other way. The hardest part now is wishing my kids could learn from my learning and save themselves those years of grief...<br /><br />The gift in it all is the wonderful discovery of the life and love that are now...Diane Walkerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03379544317007203762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9025568998589461867.post-17777322639854092009-12-12T18:51:47.792-08:002009-12-12T18:51:47.792-08:00I too think Jayne said it all best. My daughter in...I too think Jayne said it all best. My daughter in law attended support classes that were very helpful. Some of the things I shared with my son I had to give up. Yet new things/interests have slowly taken their place. Life goes on but their will always be the ache and the what ifs.....troutbirderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14087811292280881959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9025568998589461867.post-61111186969448973012009-12-11T17:12:05.838-08:002009-12-11T17:12:05.838-08:00Hug those dogs (I know they are hugging you in the...Hug those dogs (I know they are hugging you in their way); seek the light; remember with tears; find one thing to anticipate with gladness; indulge yourself a bit; know that you are loved. That last one can be so hard. Believe it anyway.<br /><br />Hugs.altar egohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11564052536173244610noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9025568998589461867.post-42778726528140973292009-12-09T19:42:08.607-08:002009-12-09T19:42:08.607-08:00When I read the title of your post--I immediately ...When I read the title of your post--I immediately thought CARPE DIEM. That wonderful theme in so much poetry--seize the day.<br />Grab the time you have.<br />While I don't think in terms of--live as though it's my last day--I suppose truthfully every day is our last day.<br />But every day is also the first day. <br />I agree with Jayne--the new normal. I certainly have not had the life-altering challenges you are living through, but I have had some unexpected curve balls thrown my way. It is a struggle to find the new normal. But in each instance, I have.<br />You will too--because you want to.<br />By the way, I do so enjoy the shepherds slide-show. What handsome dogs.KGMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05165941950953938943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9025568998589461867.post-2502848295004115182009-12-09T09:05:59.971-08:002009-12-09T09:05:59.971-08:00Yepper - woke up one day and found I'd been a ...Yepper - woke up one day and found I'd been a jerk for much of my life. It's a hard thing to deal with, reality, when my own reality was far different from what I had imagined. You'll get through it of that I have no doubts. But where you end up is going to be radically different from what you think it will be. Just KNOW that God's will is being done in your life. The choices are yours and He'll stand by you as you struggle with the everyday choices that used to be so simple, especially when those choices were based on long standing habits acquired in concert with another. God bless you Donna - we pray for you daily. Love ya - SteveAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17177340631103301716noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9025568998589461867.post-4966011335097184462009-12-09T08:27:16.764-08:002009-12-09T08:27:16.764-08:00I wish there were some words of wisdom I could giv...I wish there were some words of wisdom I could give you to ease your pain but I can't. What I can do is say a pray that with God's help you will find the strength to enjoy each day once again.happyonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14186179870233267082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9025568998589461867.post-68149758103164228612009-12-09T03:48:06.373-08:002009-12-09T03:48:06.373-08:00It is during this time Donna that you will find a ...It is during this time Donna that you will find a "new normal." That's how I describe it to people. It happens when your current reality becomes your normal. Not that you can't remember how it was before, but you've lived with the new issues long enough that you incorporate them into your life and then it becomes... well, normal again. Sam's autism was not going away, but how I responded to it had to change, else I'd have been a blubbering mess even now. So, all this to say that everything you are feeling now is quite expected. I love that you are focusing on how much we all tend to live in "when" and not "now." Is there a support group for spouses left behind in your area? Truly, sometimes it does help to be with others who can truly say, "I know how you feel." No one else can say they understand truly. Just know that the fact that you are working to process it all is such progress. Hugs to you.Jaynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14057094040409159429noreply@blogger.com